How to Be Interesting in Front of Your Crush (for Girls)

Getting Your Crush’s Attention

Hang out with interesting people. Think about the people in your life who are spontaneous, especially funny, or who always have a crazy story to tell. Hang out with them when your crush is around, and let them bring out your funny or spontaneous side. Plus, your friends influence your behavior, so if you have interesting friends, chances are you’ll become more interesting, too.

Flirt with eye contact, touch, and gentle teasing. Flirting can be a ton of fun for you and your crush, making you more interesting. Make eye contact, give them a light touch on the arm, and try out some playful teasing. Stand up tall and look into her eyes to show confidence. You could say something like, “Better bring your A game to P.E., because I’m gonna beat you in kickball.” Keep the teasing light and playful. You don’t want to hurt your crush’s feelings.

Play a little hard to get. You should give your crush attention, but not too much. Make sure you give them space. Spend time having fun conversations with other people in the room. It’ll make you more mysterious.

Try new activities or hobbies. Be adventurous! Join a new club at school, try a different sport, or take up a crazy new hobby. Trying new things will make you seem more interesting, plus it’ll give you tons to talk about. Learn how to skateboard, join your school’s pep club, or start a blog.

Smile. Even if you’re feeling nervous, smiling can actually make you seem more likeable and confident, helping you catch your crush’s eye. So, next time you’re around your crush, flash those pearly whites.

Join a club or activity with them. Having common interests will automatically make you more interesting to your crush. If they’re involved in a club or activity that seems cool, join! As a bonus, you’ll be able to spend more time together. Make sure your crush isn’t the only reason you’re joining a club. Only join a club or activity that actually interests you.

Give them compliments. When you see something you like about your crush or something that impresses you, let your crush know. People love compliments, so you’ll definitely get your crush’s attention. You could say, “Your haircut looks great” or “You’re really good at playing the piano.” Make sure you mean the things you say, and avoid giving your crush too many compliments. Forced compliments can make you seem fake.

Having a Great Conversation

Find out what they like and talk about it. The best way to make yourself seem interesting is to take an interest in your crush’s interests. Talk to their friends to see what they like, or just ask your crush straight-up what they like to do. Then, talk about it! If you know your crush is a huge basketball fan, watch the game. Then, ask them what they thought about it when you see them. It’s an interesting but easy conversation starter! If you’re trying to figure out your crush’s interests, you could ask, “What’s your favorite thing to do on the weekends?” or “What’s your favorite TV show?”

Think of a few good stories you can tell. Have a few go-to funny stories that you can whip out when chatting with your crush. Pick stories that your crush can relate to. If your crush is a surfer and you have a story about your hilarious first attempt at surfing, tell them.

Change the topic if they look bored. If your crush is yawning, looking away, or not asking any questions, they may be bored with your conversation topic. Don’t take this personally--everyone has different interests. Switch to a new topic, or ask them a personal question to change gears. Imagine you’re talking about your love of stamp collecting, and your crush is looking a little distracted. Throw in a question like, “So, do you have any hobbies that you love?”

Be a good listener. Being interesting isn’t just about talking. In fact, being a good listener is just as important, so let you crush get some words in. Try to take a genuine interest in what your crush is saying. Listening will be way easier. Show your crush you’re listening by nodding, saying things like “yes” or “mmhmm,” and repeating back what they tell you in your own words.

Ask them open-ended questions. Asking good questions can make for a more interesting conversation, which makes you seem more interesting, too. Ask your crush open-ended questions, which are questions that can’t be answered with yes or no. If you and your crush are talking about summer vacation, you could ask a fun question like, “What’s your craziest summer break story?” Ask follow-up questions, too. If your crush launches into a story about meeting their favorite celebrity, you could ask, “Did she look like she does in the movies?”

Be expressive when you talk. Whether you’re talking to your crush or your group of friends across the hall from your crush, don’t be afraid to be expressive. Speak with emotion and use your hands to gesture as you talk. You’ll automatically seem more engaging. No need to go crazy with loud speech and wild hand gestures. Do what feels natural.

Being Confident in Yourself

Don’t worry about what others think. The most interesting people are the ones who do their own thing without worrying about what others think. Embrace your unique quirks, and try to be comfortable in your own skin. Don’t try to force yourself to be someone you’re not just because you think your crush will like you more. Self confidence is attractive!

Wear clothes that make you feel confident. Pick clothes that make you feel beautiful and confident. You might feel like a million bucks in your favorite pair of overalls or your new sundress. The confidence you get from rocking an outfit you love can make you more interesting to your crush. Makeup is not necessary, but if you want to wear a little to give you a confidence boost, go for it.

Relax and be yourself. It’s perfectly normal to feel nervous in front of your crush, but you should try to relax and be yourself. Extreme nerves can keep you from showing your crush how great you are. Take a few deep breaths, and remember that your crush might be feeling nervous, too. To calm yourself down, take slow, deep breaths from your stomach rather than your chest. Don’t try to push your nerves away. Accept that you’re feeling nervous instead of beating yourself up. Remember that this is a completely normal reaction to being around a super cute crush.

Give yourself a pep talk. Confidence can make you more attractive and interesting in the eyes of your crush. Before heading out the door, give yourself a pep talk in the mirror to psych yourself up and calm your nerves. Say, “You’re awesome. You can totally play it cool around your crush.”