Spicing up Your Everyday Life
Get to know each other again. When you're with someone for a long time, it can start to feel like you know everything about each other. However, people are really complex, and there's always something new to learn! Spend some time talking about new things to help spice things up again. For instance, if there's something they enjoy that you're not really into, try asking them what they like about it.
Spend the day in bed and enjoy a lazy day with your partner. Spontaneous trips don’t have to involve a lot of travel! You can make a random decision to spend the whole day in bed. Depending on your mood, you can play around under the covers or get caught up on your favorite TV show. The choice is yours! As a special touch, you can surprise your partner with breakfast in bed.
Introduce your partner to exciting new foods. Think about the types of food you and your partner eat a lot, and what types of cuisines you usually skip over. Order some take-out from a restaurant you’ve never visited before, or go for a dish that you’ve never tried. Sometimes, something as simple as a plate of food can add a bit of excitement and adventure to your relationship. For instance, if you and your partner usually prefer Italian food, try ordering from an Indian restaurant instead. As an extra surprise, try making an exciting new dish for your partner at home!
Try a new hobby or activity with your partner. Register for a class or start trying a new activity at home. It might be something you're both interested in but have never tried before, or it might be something your partner likes but you've never done. Experiment with different activities to keep you and your partner guessing! For instance, you can sign up for tango dancing classes, or you try something like paintball.
Go to a gym or exercise class with your partner. Visit your local gym and see if they’re hosting any special classes. Sign up for group activities like yoga, Zumba, or other session that really gets your blood pumping. If your local gym doesn’t offer any of these classes, enjoy spending some time getting hot and sweaty together on the regular equipment. As an added bonus, see if your gym hosts any couples classes.
Send romantic poems or emails to one another. Draft a love letter or poem for your partner. Instead of handing it straight to them, send it over in an email, or via snail mail. Sending some cheesy or romantic to your partner in a unique way can add a fun dash of adventure to your relationship. For instance, you can schedule to send an email to your partner’s email when you know they’ll be at work.
Go out with mutual friends and have a wild time together. Ask a few of your friends to go on a double or group date with you and your partner. Visit a restaurant, hang out at a bar, go to a movie, or do something else fun and active. Spending time with other people can make you appreciate your partner and relationship even more.
Send your partner a secret, unconventional message. Leave a loving note in a place where your partner won’t expect it, like their wallet. Try sending messages in really subtle ways, like on a receipt or bill.
Planning Impulsive Trips and Visits
Take a spontaneous day trip with your partner. Plan surprise dates for your partner, this doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. Ask your partner to block off a few hours during the day or at night but don’t tell them why. Try and schedule an outing as soon as you can, as long as your work schedules allow it. Enjoy some relaxing bonding time while having fun on your spur-of-the-moment day or afternoon out! For instance, if you live on the coast, you can plan a hike at your local park. If you’re into more relaxed trips, you can visit the beach or spend the day window-shopping.
Take part in a daring, scary activity together. Visit an amusement park, go sky-diving, or try something else that will really get your adrenaline racing. You can create a fun memory together while also building arousal for a steamy night later on. If you don’t feel like going out, you can always put on a scary movie. When you do scary things with your partner, you’ll begin to associate the adrenaline and arousal with them.
Plan an unexpected getaway with your partner. Think about a place you’ve always wanted to go, whether it’s the next town over or in a different country. If your work schedule allows, schedule the trip as soon as possible. You can also work with certain travel agencies who will book a mystery trip for you and your partner. For example, if you really like nature and hiking, you can take a vacation to a national park with your partner. If you’re into relaxing and lounging around, plan a beach trip or casino vacation.
Surprise your partner by visiting them at work. Take note of your partner’s usual work schedule, and make an effort to stop by during their lunch break. Try not to hint that you’re planning on visiting them so your partner can be totally surprised when you show up.
Enhancing Your Relationship Physically
Open up about your personal fantasies. Be frank with your partner about things you’d like to try in the bedroom. You can have an honest conversation and see if it’s something your significant other would be willing to try. If nothing else, these conversations can help bring you and your partner closer together! For instance, ask your partner if you can take the lead the next time you have sex. You don’t have to share anything you don’t want to.
Experiment with some new sex positions and toys. Talk to your partner about changing things up in the bedroom a bit. If they’re interested, try out a few new sex positions, or experiment with some safe toys. Try something that you haven’t done before, which can add a bit spice and excitement to both your sex life and relationship. If you’re trying something a bit more rough, like BDSM, have a safe word in place for both you and your partner’s safety. Ask your partner if they’d be interested in trying the Pretzel Dip, Face-off, or the Leap Frog.
Add some extra touch in your relationship. Look for opportunities to hold your partner’s hand or to give them a peck on the lips or cheeks. While not a huge game changer, you can make your relationship more exciting by making life’s mundane moments a little more intimate.
Incorporate a little more sex into your relationship. Don’t save sex for special occasions—instead, try to make it a regular, spontaneous part of your bedroom. Talk to your partner and see if they’d be interested in having sex more often, and go from there. Remember—sex is about being close and initiate with your partner. If your significant other isn’t interested in changing up their sex life, there’s plenty of other fun ways you can be intimate.
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