Tinder Profile Tips for Bio
Win potential matches over with a funny bio. Marilyn Monroe once said, “If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.” Why not follow the advice of one of the most sought after icons of all time? You want a Tinder bio that makes your potential soulmate chuckle, while setting an appropriate and respectful tone. After all, this stranger on the other side of the screen could be the LOYL (Love of Your Life)! Examples: “I may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but I’m definitely somebody’s spiked coffee on a Monday morning. Could that be you?” “‘She’s made amazing blueberry pancakes and gave excellent back scratches. 10/10, would recommend.’– My ex.” “My perfect date? We go to a thrift store and pick out outfits for each other. Then, we go into another shop acting disoriented and confused. We frantically go up to the cashier and ask, ‘What year is it?!’ You in?”
Ask thoughtful, engaging questions. Getting your matches to engage you in conversation is half the battle– and half the fun! In your bio, ask the kinds of questions you really want to know the answers to, with a quirky and flirty edge. They don’t have to be overly complicated, but you don’t want them to be “yes” or “no” questions. The best questions are open-ended ones that merit thoughtful, creative responses. Examples: “What’s your favorite restaurant appetizer? I’m a huge fan of mozzarella sticks!” “What top three songs would play in the soundtrack of your life?” “What fictional character do you most identify with?” “What niche subject would you be able to give a Ted Talk on?” “What’s the best piece of advice anyone’s ever given you?”
Avoid negativity at all costs. Although there’s definitely a place and time for virtual teasing and banter, don’t lead with negativity. Don’t mention negative past experience on the app, don’t disparage people of your preferred gender, and don’t speak like a person who’s been scorned before. No matter how tragic you your dating history might be, remember that you only need lightning to strike once. Examples. Don’t: “If you’re like every other girl on here just looking for a sugar daddy, swipe left.” Do: “Looking forward to binge watching Netflix with one person forever.” Don’t: “If you have kids, keep swiping, I’m not interested in being anyone’s stepmom.” Do: “I love pets, so feel free to tell me all about your furry cuddle buddy!”
Try to stand out among the rest. This is not the time to be shy about sharing your quirks– with good measure, of course. While you do want as many matches as possible, you don’t want to cast such a wide net that you match with just anyone. Be honest and specific about your interests and see what compatible cuties swipe right. Examples: “I love reading fantasy novels, like the Game of Thrones series. Just looking for my little khaleesi to snuggle up with me on the couch.” “Baking bread is one of my favorite things, so I hope you’re not afraid of carbs!” “Sky diving, bungee jumping, spelunking– I’ve done it all! Looking for a partner in crime!”
Be honest about what you’re looking for. “Dating” is a pretty broad term, so you’ll want to specify your intentions. Are you just looking for some casual fun? Say so! Perhaps, instead, you’re looking for a short-term relationship with no real plans for serious committment; say that, too. Or maybe you’re looking for marriage, children, a white picket fence– the whole shebang! Whatever you’re looking for, your matches will appreciate you being up front about it. Examples: “I travel often for work, so I’m just looking for something fun and casual with a likeminded person while I’m in town.” “I’m not against a long-term relationship with the right person, but I’d like to forge a strong friendship and connection before deciding to take things to the next level.” “In the words of Carrie Bradshaw, I’m looking for ‘can’t live without you’ kind of love and commitment, and I won’t settle for anything less!” EXPERT TIP Maya Diamond, MA Maya Diamond, MA Relationship Coach Maya Diamond is a Dating and Relationship Coach in Berkeley, CA. She has 15 years of experience helping singles stuck in frustrating dating patterns find internal security, heal their past, and create healthy, loving, and lasting partnerships. She received her Master's in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies in 2009. Maya Diamond, MA Maya Diamond, MA Relationship Coach The most important thing is to make a profile that represents your interests, lifestyle, and personality, and to be very clear about why you're on Tinder. That's something that a lot of people are afraid to do-- they're afraid to put out why they're online. They want to cast a really wide net of people. But what happens is that you attract the wrong people. So, when you're very clear about why you are online, [...] that helps filter the people who are not right for you from messaging you and helps you attract those people who are really the right fit for you in terms of your goals and your vision for what you want in your life.
Icebreakers to Spark Conversation
Play a game to get to know your matches. Icebreaker games have a place in all sorts of professional and social settings, so why not Tinder? Start by setting up the rules and participating yourself. Extra points if you can manage to be clever, humble, and interesting. Here are some ways you can play for love– and win!
Two Truths and a Lie Use this game to share fun, unexpected facts about yourself. It also gives you the opportunity to grant them a glimpse into your personality with the “lie.” Examples: “I’ve met a former president. I have 12 tattoos. I named my dog after a Renaissance painter.” “I’ve been to every continent. I’m adopted. I was born on February 29th.” “English is not my native language. I fix up classic cars in my spare time. My favorite director is Christopher Nolan.”
Never Have I Ever Although this is designed to be a drinking game, you can still use it to meet your match. The key is to say something that you’ve truly never done that you’re interested in learning about the other person. Examples: “Never have I ever ridden a horse.” “Never have I ever broken a bone.” “Never have I ever traveled abroad.” "Never have I ever been engaged." "Never have I ever sang karaoke."
"I was today years old when I learned that…" Showcase your silly side by sharing something that you recently learned, that perhaps you should have known for a long time. Try to strike the perfect balance between funny and self-depricating. Examples: “I was today years old when I learned that turtles are not amphibians… they’re reptiles!” “I was today years old when I learned that we share about 50% of DNA… with bananas!” “I was today years old when I learned that Cleopatra was born closer to the moon landing than the building of the pyramids.”
"If you were on a deserted island…" This classic school game requests that you and your potential matches really consider the things that are most important to you. There’s different versions of this with their own respective parameters, but sticking to books, movies, and food are good bets. Examples: “If I was on a deserted island, the three books I’d want with me are “The Iliad” by Homer, “A Brief History of Time” by Stephen Hawking, and “The Giver” by Lois Lowry. “If I was on a deserted island, the three films I’d want to watch on repeat are Titanic, The Notebook, and Matilda.” “If I was on a deserted island, the three foods I’d want to eat forever would be tacos, pepperoni pizza, and chocolate cake.”
Photos to Include in Your Profile
Select your best photo as your main profile pic. First impressions are very important, so make sure the first photo people see is the best one possible. It should be you alone– no group pics, as they may lead your potential match to scratch their head, wondering which one you are. Your face should be clearly visible, but at a reasonable distance front he camera. Additionally, it wouldn’t kill you to smile. Show off those pearly whites! If you don’t have any photos that meet all of the aforementioned criteria, get a friend to take a few pictures of you at your next social gathering. Dress well, groom yourself, and try to find natural lighting.
Limit your selfies. Although one selfie is totally fine to include, a profile flooded with selfies can lead your matches to think one of two things: either you’re obsessed with yourself, or you don’t have that many friends, since they’re not in the picture with you or taking it for you. Both of these are red flags, so don’t go selfie-crazy, even if you have some absolute stunners. Instead, focus on uploading photos that illustrate your interests, hobbies, and social preferences.
Keep it classy. Although it’s tempting to show off your hot bod in every frame, limit shirtless pics and bikini pics. One “sexy” photo will give your matches an idea of your body type– we don’t want to catfish anyone– but more than one might send the wrong idea, especially if you’re trying to find a serious, long-term partner. Flex those abs and then move it along– the right person can definitely wait to see more!
Additional Tips
Don’t sound creepy, douchey, or desperate. This probably goes without saying, but please try to keep all your sexual innuendos to yourself during this fragile courting phase. It’s not a good look, and it’s certainly not becoming of anyone who wants a serious relationship. Don’t brag about how much money you make, all the times you’ve bene on a private jet, or how you can’t wait to financially take care of your partner. These may attract the wrong crowd– or no crowd at all! Don’t mention your past romantic failures. Avoid saying anything along the lines of, “This is the fifth time I delete and download this app, so here’s hoping fifth time’s the charm!” This could easily deter a potential match from swiping right– and then they’re gone forever!
Pick good photos. Humans are visual creatures, so be very selective about the photos your post. Make sure your first photo is your best one, clearly showing your face. Then, have at least one that clearly shows your face and body, one of you in the middle of a hobby or activity, and one group picture to prove you have friends. We’re sure that you do, but this will be irrefutable proof!
Starting a conversation is the most important part. You can have the best profile ever and that will mean virtually nothing if you can’t figure out how to spark up conversation. Leading with questions, humor, and sincerity are all good guidelines to follow. Avoid cliches and small talk. Your profile is not the place for pick-up lines– it’s for you to set genuine intentions for the kind of relationship you’re looking for. Similarly, don’t open up a conversation with questions like, “Hey, what are you up to?” Or, “How are you today?” This lets the other person know that you either didn’t bother to learn anything about them from their profile, or that you simply didn’t care to put in the effort. Both are bad. Don’t be overly eager. The goal of chatting on dating apps is to eventually meet in real life, but you don’t want to scare a match away before you get the chance. Keep the conversation going for a week or so and then suggest a first date spot. Coffee, drinks, or dinner are all classic options. So, grab your smartphone, open up the Tinder app, and start swiping! You’re ready.
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