How to Use Astrology to Improve Your Relationship

Understanding Your Partner

Avoid choosing a partner based just on their astrological sign. There’s a lot of talk about which signs are compatible and which ones are incompatible. Some people will tell you to avoid certain people based on their sign. Ignore them. The bottom line is, while all signs have differences, most people can build a relationship with someone else as long as they learn to understand those differences. Keep in mind that all signs can work together -- they just don’t work together in the same way.

Take the full range of astrological elements into account. People often make the mistake of reducing a partner’s (or potential partner’s) identity just to their sun sign: Aires, Virgo, Leo, etc. Its true that each sign has certain qualities and elements associated with it. Yet when it comes down to each individual person’s personality, it’s much more complex than that. If you really want to understand the astrological influences on your partner and yourself, you’ll need to consult your full birth charts.

Determine your collective strengths and weaknesses. A relationship isn’t just about what your partner is like -- it’s a collective partnership. Taking astrology into account can help you see if you have a shortcoming that your partner can make up for, meaning that your relationship together is stronger than the two of you apart. For instance, maybe your sign is strongly influenced by the moon, giving you a tendency to be very emotional. If your partner is an earth sign, this doesn’t necessarily mean you are incompatible. Instead your partner might be more grounded and able to even out your emotional needs.

Deepening Your Relationship

Consult astrology to learn about your partner’s needs. Astrological information can certainly give insight into the personal, emotional, sexual, and spiritual needs that a person has. The more knowledge you have about your partner’s needs, the better you will be able to support and love them. Effort matters in making any relationship successful. Take the time to learn your partner’s birth chart. Consult their horoscope as well as your own. Use this knowledge to improve your relationship. For example, if your partner’s horoscope signals that they will have difficulty in business, you can make an extra effort during that time to support them at home.

Let astrology guide you on when to give your partner space. Ironically, sometimes one of the best ways to become closer to your partner is to leave them alone. For example, if you know your partner’s sign causes them to tend to become anxious around other people, you can make an effort to give them some time at home alone while you go out with friends. Ultimately, your partner will feel better and appreciate the care you put into your relationship.

Reflect on your role in the relationship. Maybe you are the earth sign Virgo “rock” in your relationship. Or maybe are you the fire sign Aries “spirit.” No matter your sign, you are distinct from your partner, and this means you have a unique role. Talk to your partner about your astrological tendencies, and how they impact your relationship. Think about how your tendencies, and your partner’s, strengthen your relationship when brought together. By recognizing your differences and how they impact your relationship, you will develop a deeper appreciation for it.

Consult an expert. If things aren’t perfect at home, or if you just want to understand your partner and relationship better, seek out an expert. Whether you are trying to increase someone's attraction to you, solve a problem, or just deepen your love, a reader or other expert can help you use astrological knowledge to work on your relationship. If you’re unable to convince your partner to go with you, consult an expert on your own. The expert can teach you how to use astrological knowledge to work on your relationship.